30 Years Old In 30 Days!

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Yes in 30 days I’ll be 30 years old and as I reflect on my twenties I wondered, “Does time really fly this fast”? I remember my childhood as if it happened yesterday. Can hardly believe that my twenties is almost over. However, it is indeed a privilege and an honor to see 30 years of life. I just have to say “thank you Jesus for blessing me and carrying me through these years”. If it had not been for the Lord I don’t know where I would be today.

Something very tragic happened to me just after I celebrated my 16th birthday and since then I didn’t really celebrate birthdays. I never really had any big parties or surprises on my birthday and last year I decided that I would start celebrating because its my right. I can’t hold on to something from the past and let it rob me of my future. However, last year didn’t go so well either and I thought about giving up on celebrating birthdays. But why should I? I made a deal with myself that this year is gonna be the year that I enjoy every bit down to the last second of it. I’ll let you know how it goes.

So one day I was talking to my friend and I was telling her that I didn’t really feeI accomplished and  don’t know why I should even celebrate the big 3-0 this year. I don’t have a husband nor a child or even landed my dream job as yet. And then she said something very profound to me. She asked “who put a cap on it? Who said that by 30 you have to have all of these things”? Then I began to think she’s right. I started to think less about the physical and more about the intangible. I’ve travelled a whole lot, made great friends and created solid friendships, gotten a solid education, etc. I have those things to celebrate. By the way, MY BEST IS YET TO COME!

There are so many things in my past that I would like to finally close the door on. A new life awaits me. And I know God has something spectacular planned for my life. I can’t and I refuse to carriage baggage into my thirties. “Lord I open up my heart and hands to receive all the blessings  you have in stored for me.” I feel as though I’ve grown so much during my twenties that I’m prepared. God was preparing me for all the fabulousness that awaits me. He’s the potter and I’m the clay. I’m being molded.

Finally, the people that I would love to spend my birthday with this year are people that go all the way back. My family, my friends that I’ve grown up with, high school friends, college friends, university friends and the other angels that were sent in my life. Some of the people that I would love to celebrate with can’t be here with me but I know if they could have they would have. In the future I hope that we can do more celebrating together. You guys are priceless and mean a lot to me. Your ongoing presence and support in my life has been not only been greatly appreciated but is also indispensable.

30 years old….whew! It sure has been a long road. But through all the laughter and tears, the good and the bad, I wouldn’t change a minute of my life. Every second has taught me valuable lessons. Goodbye 20s. 30s I WELCOME YOU :D.



This glossary came from : http://www.asiamnaturally.com/glossary.html


Ever wondered what TWA or wash and go meant? Have a look



Accordion Technique

A Wash n’ Go styling technique that produces well- formed, highly-defined coils/curls. (Best if performed in the shower because it involves significant dripping.) .Hair is first cleansed and conditioned. While soaking wet, a styling curl cream or curl gel is applied… (Some ladies use only an application of conditioner instead of styling products.) As the head is titled in various angles, the hair now weighted with water and styling product, is lowered into an open palm and gently pressed to the scalp repeatedly. Hair is typically air dried afterward.


ACV (Apple Cider Vinegar)

Typically used in a diluted form as a final rinse after shampooing and before conditioning. Seals and tightens the cuticle layer for improved shine and smoothness.



Arm Pit Length (Reference to length of hair)



Big _ _ _ Afro! Opposite of a TWA, (Teeny Weeny Afro)



The practice of covering the hair at night with a plastic shower cap for the purpose of enhancing moisture. This method is thought to help reduce breakage, split ends and dryness.



A styling technique used to inhibit hair shrinkage and thereby display more of the hair’s actual length. .Gathering the hair into one ponytail or several smaller ones, covered elastic bands are affixed snugly from the scalp area, one after the other, all the way down to the ends, (or near the ends) of the hair. Several bands may be needed for each section, depending upon hair length. May be done on wet, damp or dry hair. Bands are left in for a period of time or until the hair is dry (if banded while damp or wet.)


Bantu Knots

A hairstyle created by carefully and precisely parting hair in small-to-medium sections, and then twisting the sections in one direction until they wrap into neat knots. The knots are often secured near the scalp with bobby or hair pins.


Bantu Knot Out

A style, with a highly defined curly or wavy texture, created by releasing Bantu Knots after they are dry.


BC (Big Chop)

Cutting off all relaxed or chemically-treated portions of the hair, leaving only natural-textured new growth.


BKT (Brazilian Keratin Treatment)

A chemical blow-out treatment used to temporarily smooth and straighten natural textured hair. Many systems incorporate formaldehyde. Not recommended for those who wish to retain their natural coil/curl pattern because such systems often cause permanent relaxation of the hair.


BNC (Braid-n-Curl)

A style created by plaiting or braiding the hair while wet, and then curling the ends with rollers or flexi rods. After the hair is dry, the braids and rollers are removed to reveal a wavy and curly hair texture.



Bra Strap Length (Reference to length of hair)



Beauty Supply Store



Collar Bone Length (Reference to length of hair)


CG (Curly Girl)

CG is an abbreviation for “Curly Girl,” a book written by Lorraine Massey and Michele Bender. It also describes a routine set forth in the book that helps natural “coilies” and “curlies” achieve healthy, manageable waves, curls or coils. Key is the “no poo” method of cleansing, (i.e. cowashing). Several other techniques of hair care and styling are also recommended.



The process of cleansing and removing a build-up of oils, styling products, tap water minerals and/or medications from the hair. Typically performed with specialty shampoos or baking soda rinses.



A hairstyle achieved by taking small sections of wet or very damp hair and smoothing, while rotating the sections, one-by-one, from root to tip. Tiny styling combs have been used for coils, as well as a finger. Typically, a gel is applied prior to coiling for longer-lasting hold and shine.



A term used to reference the texture characteristic of natural Type 4 hair, whereby the configuration of the strand resembles a small-diameter ink pen spring. The coil is most evident when the hair is wet and/or defined with a curling custard/ gel. It usually remains evident when the hair is allowed to dry undisturbed from a soaking wet stage.






Cones (Silicone)

Silicones of various types are incorporated into many hair care product formulations because of their ability to impart shine, enhance flexibility, reduce frizz, protect hair from heat, form a water-resistant barrier around the hair shaft and seal the cuticle layer. Many women with natural-textured hair reject products that contain silicones due to the belief that “cones” are difficult to remove and prevent the hair from receiving moisture.



The practice of cleansing the hair using an appropriate conditioner in place of a conventional shampoo. Preferred by many naturalistas as the predominant method of cleansing because of its ability to help hair retain moisture.


Creamy Crack

A reference to chemical relaxers. The term was coined with the thought that the use of relaxers is addictive for those women who strive for a permanently straight hair texture.


DT or DC

Deep treatment or deep conditioner. A moisturizing, strengthening and/or damage-repair product that is applied right after cleansing, and often allowed to penetrate for 15 – 30 minutes with the use of a mild heat source. Also used to enhance shine and manageability.



Trimming of the hair, typically ¼ inch or less. The amount of hair trimmed is usually so small that it appears as dust.


EO (Essential Oils)

Aromatic oils are extracted from flowers, grasses, fruits, leaves, roots, or trees, and maintain the odors and tastes, and thus the essence, of the plants from which they are extracted. Among many applications, they are sometimes used to nourish the hair and scalp.



Extra Virgin Coconut Oil; Used as a natural hair care product for shine and to seal in moisture. It is one of the few oils with a proven ability to penetrate the skin and hair. Loved for its emollient and sheen-producing properties.



Extra Virgin Olive Oil; Used as a natural hair care product for shine. Also used as a pre-shampoo treatment. EVOO is considered by some to be a natural sealant that locks moisture inside the hairshaft that was provided by a previously-applied hydrating product.


Flat Twists

A technique whereby the hair is two-strand twisted flat to the scalp, in cornrow fashion.




The use of fingers or a pick to add volume and shape to natural hair.








A hairstyle where the sides of an afro are flattened to the scalp, either by smoothing & pinning or by shaving. The center hair is left high and free, in the shape of the distinctive Mohawk.



Hair Types: 1/2a/2b/2c/ 3a/3b/3c/4a/4b/4c

Hair typing refers to the amount of texture hair has. Naturally straight hair isType 1, loose-wavy hair is type 2, curly hair is type 3 and coily hair is type 4. In the case of types 3 and 4, the sub-classifications from a – c, are based upon the diameter of the curl or coil. For instance a type 3a curl may have the diameter of a nickel, a 3b, like a dime. Type 4, which is the most common for people of African descent, ranges from the diameter of a pencil eraser (4a), to the diameter of an ink pen spring (4b), and even smaller than that, (type 4c). In some cases, hair may even have a tight z zigzag pattern and no coil at all. This hair type classification system was created by renowned hairstylist and entrepreneur, Andre Walker.




A plant-derived powder, when mixed with water to make a paste, is applied to hair, processed and rinsed out. It is used as a natural hair color-enhancer, strengthener and conditioner.



HG (Holy Grail)

Products that one has tried, achieved good results with and remains loyal to



HIH (Hand in Hair)

By some, jokingly called a disease, this is a condition whereby one continually touches or manipulates her hair. It is considered to be a compulsion and a habit that, if extreme, causes the hair to frizz or even break.




A hairstyle whereby small sections of hair are twisted and over time, the strands become permanently secured. As locks/locs grow, they can become quite long.




Mid Back Length (Reference to hair length)




The anniversary of the day one decided to “go natural” and to refrain from applying chemical straighteners (relaxers) to the hair.




A non-foaming, non-detergent cleanser, typically a conditioner, used to remove dirt, oils and styling products from the hair and scalp. Used to help hair retain moisture and softness.




Pulling hair into one or several pony puffs, (depending on hair length), using covered or ouch less bands. The balance of the hair remains free. The puff(s) are positioned at the top or at several sites across the head. This procedure helps preserve the coil/curl definition of the style overnight, and also provides some stretch to the hair. When using this technique, it’s best to sleep on a satin pillowcase. In the morning, the bands are removed and the sections are gently shaken or fluffed.



PJ (Product Junky)

A person who buys a lot of different products and brands in the quest of finding the “perfect” ones for her hair.




Hair is carefully lowered and loosely wrapped in a clean t-shirt or soft cotton material, while bending from the waist. Performed after cleansing, conditioning and/or applying a liberal amount of styling gel or cream, it helps to absorb excess moisture from the hair. It’s thought to decrease drying time, reduce frizz, and enhance natural curls.



Pony Puff

A hairstyle whereby the hair is pulled back at the crown, sides and nape, using headbands, hair pins, scarves, etc. The remaining hair extends freely.








Oils, conditioners and other substances applied to the hair prior to shampooing to enhance moisturization and conditioning during cleansing.



Protective Styling

A hairstyle that helps protect the ends of hair from dehydration and damage, by eliminating the need for mechanical manipulation, (combing, brushing, picking, etc.) and shielding against environmental exposure, (i.e. sun, heat, cold, wind). Some examples are buns, braids, twists, ponytails and various head coverings.



S&D (Search and Destroy)

Identifying frayed, damaged ends for the purpose of trimming them. Such trimming is thought to optimize hair health, encourage the curls to “pop”, and improve the look and feel of hair.




Applying a product or single ingredient, such as a natural oil, to the hair to help lock in moisture. May be applied along the entire hair strand or just to the ends, following cleansing and/or the application of a cream or conditioner containing water. Sealing is often achieved with the use of natural oils and butters or products formulated with them.



Second Day Hair

The state of one’s hair on the day after it is cleansed, conditioned and styled. For some, it is a less-than-desirable look, often referring to frizz, loss of definition, shine or overall shape. For others, it’s a positive description of hair that is fuller, freer, showing fewer partings, etc.




A form of Wash n’ Go styling whereby a styling curl cream or curl gel is liberally applied section-by section to clean, very wet hair. As the styling product is applied to each relatively small section of hair, the section is smoothed between the thumb and forefinger, in a downward motion from root to tip. The smoothing action, in combination with the styling product immediately makes the coil/curl/wave pattern evident. The hair is then either air-dried or dried with the use of a hood dryer. Once dry, the hair can be gently fluffed for style.



A term used to describe the reduction of the visual length of hair. It is a process that occurs as wet hair dries and re-coils into its natural texture pattern.



A state produced by a product whereby the palms of the hands, the fingers and/or a detangling comb are able to easily and smoothly glide along the hairshaft, from root to tip. For the sake of manageability and feel, it is desirable that hair care products such as shampoos, leave-in conditioners and deep conditioners provide this attribute, without leaving behind a tacky or dulling residue.


SLS (Sodium Lauryl Sulfate)

A synthetic detergent associated with hair dehydration, and semi-permanent and permanent hair color fading. Commonly found in conventional shampoos.



Refers to the inhibition of hair shrinkage which is characteristic of tightly coily/curly hair. Via specific stretching techniques, more of the hair’s actual length is revealed in the finished style. Some products are also thought to minimize shrinkage, thereby helping to stretch the hair.



A chemical treatment used to partially relax or loosen the natural curl pattern of highly textured hair. Provides greater stretch/elongation/length, and helps the hair to trail in a downward direction, (as opposed to an “up on out” direction, like an afro.) Texturizers are usually a form of relaxers, just milder in formulation or allowed to process using a different technique or timeframe. Texturizers alter the natural coil/curl pattern permanently and hair processed with them must be cut off in order to return one’s hair to its natural state.


TNC (Twist-n-Curl)

A styling technique whereby wet or damp hair is two-strand twisted and then rolled on rods or rollers. Once dry, the curlers are removed and the hair untwisted.



This is the process, (also called “the journey” or “going natural”) whereby one’s natural-textured hair is allowed to grow in, while the previously chemically-treated hair is trimmed off in stages. The goal is to have a full head of all-natural hair, but to do so without abruptly cutting off (via the Big Chop) all of the processed hair. A degree of length is maintained by only gradually removing the relaxed or permed portions. Transitioning also involves managing the coily-textured new-growth as it increasingly co-exists with the remaining hair. The strategy for some is to wear textured styles (i.e., rod sets and braids) as the new hair grows in to minimize the texture differences, or to wear or wigs/weaves for a period of time.



Teeny Weeny Afro


Twist Out

A hairstyle created by first two-strand twisting the hair while wet or damp. After the hair is dry, the twists are carefully released and styled.


Two-Strand Twists

A hairstyle technique whereby sections of hair are divided into two smaller sections and then wound around each other. The last half-inch or so of each twist is left loose and twirled around the index finger into a coil. 2-Strand Twists can be worn as a hairstyle in and of itself or the twists can be carefully released when dry (Twist-Out) for a look that’s fuller, yet with a well-defined coily/wavy texture.


Wash n’ Go

A term referring to a relatively quick and easy styling session whereby a defined finished style is achieved without twisting, braiding, knotting, rodding, etc. Hair is first cleansed and conditioned. Coils/curls are then defined with gel or a styling cream and allowed to air dry or dried using a diffuser attachment on a blow dryer set to a low temperature.May be abbreviated as WnG or W&G

Feature Friday | Meet Jacqui Bellah-Joseph

IGC: Please introduce yourself tell us where you’re from and tell us how long you’ve been natural?
I am Jacqui Joseph From the island nation of St. Vincent & the Grenadines but residing in Antigua for the past 20 years. At different times in my life, I went natural, from extremely low cuts through Afros to cornrows. My latest natural adventure is now three years and one month old.

IGC: Why did you make the decision to return natural?
In December 2008, I experienced some unusual symptoms when I relaxed my hair. I had never gotten relaxer burn before but my scalp suddenly became sensitive. By the time I was ready for my next relaxer, just in time to travel to the US for a long stay, the experience made me decide to take a break from relaxer. As it happened, I was diagnosed with Discoid Lupus, the reason for my sensitivity. That sealed the deal.

IGC: Did you big chop or transition? Tell us a little about your decision.
Since I was unfamiliar with the stylists in the area I was staying, I did not trust anyone to cut my hair so I took the decision to maintain the already relaxed hair and do regular blow outs to ease the transition until I returned home. When I returned to Antigua, I informed my stylist that I was going to cut off all my hair. He almost passed out because at that time, my hair was the longest he had ever seen it. I preferred the very short hairstyles. It took some convincing but he was accustomed to my changing hair so he obliged. I had not decided if I would maintain a TWA or just grow it out, but I was very firm that I was going to be natural from that point onwards. Thankfully, my family and friends were accustomed to me and my sudden changes in hairstyles so there was support all around. I still change styles at the drop of a hat but my options are so varied now. I have even tried locs, unsuccessfully.

IGC: Please elaborate a little bit about your hair routine? Tell us some of your favorite products to use.
My hair routine varies with my schedule and mood. I try to co-wash twice a week. I have very thirsty hair so I have to ensure that it is well moisturized. After co-wash, I oil my hair with unscented coconut oil, apply a little shea butter/olive oil mix to the ends, then I apply my special homemade leave in conditioner (aloe, coconut oil, almond oil, jojoba oil, castor oil and olive oil with a little Kinky Curly Knot Today). I sometimes add honey and glycerin to the mix. I finger comb my hair, part into sections, twist into bantu knots to dry. I occasionally do an apple cider vinegar rinse.

I am still experimenting with a conditioner for co-washing. Eco Styler Gel with olive oil is my friend. I have also just discovered Creme of Nature Argan Oil Perfect Edges Control, it keeps the fly away hairs in place.

IGC: Most naturals have a love hate relationship with their hair. What’s the relationship between you and your coils?
I have always loved my hair whether processed or natural.  My only problem, if I can call it that, is that my hair is too soft and thin so styles do not last more than a few days.

IGC: What has been the hardest part of your hair journey thus far?           
The hardest part…getting my hair to look good after a twist out. No really, it is the effort I have to put into convincing my friends that I am natural to stay. I was asked recently “So when are you going to do your hair?” I ran my fingers through my new two strand twists, shook my hair and said, “It’s done!”

IGC: Have you ever regretted your decision to return natural? If so, why?
Going natural was nothing new to me and I’m pretty comfortable with my hair so the journey has been easy.

IGC: What are your favorite hairstyles?
My style options are usually blow dry and flat iron at the lowest temperature I can achieve the results I want (a bun), get a plait up at the salon or my favorite, two strand twists.  I spend hours on YouTube looking for natural styles especially those suited for more formal events. I can do a mean up-do.

IGC: Do you see natural hair becoming more popular in the mass media or are relaxers still set to be dominant in the coming years?
More and more persons are going natural but as long as there are those who believe that they cannot manage their natural hair, processed hair will always be dominant.

IGC: What advice do you have for other women who are considering embarking upon a natural hair journey?
There is no one kind of hair. What works for someone might not work for you. Don’t be afraid to experiment to find what works for you.

Jacqui thank you so much for the chit chat. I know that having Lupus is not the easiest thing to deal with. But I wish you all the best with the treatment. Congrats on ur 3 year journey thus far. I’m trailing right behind you.

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30 Things Women Should Have And Know By 30

On Sunday I was reading a blog post from one of my subbies (Sincerly, Jess. Here’s the link to her blog http://jessj.wordpress.com/2012/05/07/how-far-ive-comethe-road-ahead/#respond) on 30 things you should have by 30. I found it quite interesting since I’ll be 30 in a couple months. So I googled the original author and source of the self survey of how far you’ve come and the road ahead. This is only the first half. The 2nd half will be in another post. Let’s go….

By 30, you should have:

  1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
    I tried the whole ‘ole flame’ thing and it didn’t work out so NOPE. It was literally a disaster. I happened to be in denial and I wound up feeling hurt and disappointed, but Jesus Saves! There’s a saying that goes: “Never go back to your EX. It’s like reading the same book over & over again when you know how the story ends”. But if you liked the book you’ve read, give it another read. Hopefully you get a feeling of satisfaction.
    As to the one who’s reminded me of how far I’ve come, YES!  JA!
  2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
    Errrrr….NO. I guess there was never a need.  But soon tho!
  3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
    Most definitely. A lady should always be equipped and ready for such spontaneous but welcoming events.
  4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
    Purse, much.
    Suitcase, 1.
    Umbrella, yes – Always!
  5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
    ….but when I became a woman, I put away childish things.
  6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
    Oh yeaaa….My young adolescent days. College was definitely a lot of fun. And Cuba…all I have to say is VIVA!
  7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
    Sadly I haven’t started saving for this but does having a plan count?
  8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
    Check, check & check.  I check my own messages and manage my own money. I thought those things were private! Oh well *shrugs*
  9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
    It might not be much but its all me. Why lie on a resume? The truth will eventually come out. The repercussions I’m sure would be damaging.
  10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
    Only one of each? Ok. Here goes…SOT & CR.
  11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
    No, no & yes! I believe every woman should own a black lace bra. Sexy much! One day when I own my home or when I meet Mr. Right he might just have a set of tools I can use. Heck he better have…Ha ha!
  12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
    Yup, nuff things but shhhhh…….!
  13. The belief that you deserve it.
    OH HELL YES!!!
  14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
    Still working on it. Life just keeps getting better and better as the years roll on by!
  15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.
    Career path: Check. I know what I want to do!
    Relationship: No…not settling soooo…..
    Other: A work in progress!

    Education is important people! It’s the foundation for greater things to come!

Read More http://www.glamour.com/magazine/2007/02/things-women-should-have-and-know-by-30#ixzz1uX2cT3AD